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Here Comes the Bridesmaid
How to get through this wedding season
as a single gal having a sensational time!
Three
weddings, two bridesmaid dresses, one single girl, no dates. Such is the beginning of many a woman’s
summer. If you are like most, the very idea of going
to a wedding (much less being a bridesmaid) is downright upsetting. Everyone
wants to know why you are single, why you haven’t brought
a date to the wedding, and when you plan on “settling
down.” It can be maddening to sift through all
the sinister smiles and come out having a great time, but it
can be done!
One
thing that single women need to remind themselves of is that
marriage is not the “be all, end all” of happiness. There
are so many amazing opportunities that single girls get to
experience. Think about it…you can do what you
want, when you want. You can take a random trip to visit a
friend in New York just because you feel like it, you can stay
up late watching a movie on Lifetime and not get any flack
for it. You can spend as much time as you see fit pursuing
your dreams and desires. Now, before you stop reading this
article thinking that this is all a bunch of fluff let’s
get back to the point of this article. You can have a great
time at a wedding as a single girl! That’s right. Read
that last sentence again. So put away your “why
me’s” and let’s look at some real, practical
ways to get through some of the wedding day “issues” with
not only dignity but with a little fun too!
Issue
1: Your great aunt Mary who you haven’t
seen in forever comes up and says, “ I thought you would
be the next one getting married! What’s the matter? Why
haven’t you settled down yet?”
Resolution: Rather than getting all defensive about why you
are still single simply smile, look aunt Mary right in the
eyes and say, “I haven’t settled down because I
won’t settle. I haven’t found Mr. Right yet,
but I know he’s out there.”
Issue
2: You are out on the dance floor, having fun when the dreaded “slow song” comes
on.
Resolution: This is easy if the groom has some cute friends
at the wedding. But if that isn’t the case then
just smile and walk around the room. Now would be a good
time to explore the hotel or even to chat with the bartender. Whatever
you do, don’t sit alone feeling sorry for yourself. It’s
moments like that when Aunt Mary will be looking for you shaking
her head. Just smile and make the most of it!
Issue
3: The bouquet toss.
Resolution: Even
though your cynical single self is usually the first one
ducking below the table when it is time for all the single
ladies to get up and try to catch that bouquet, realize that
you aren’t doing anyone any favors
(ESPECIALLY not yourself) by being the party pooper. Your
best bet is just to get up and get in the action. You’ll
find that if you can let yourself go you will be free to
have a good time.
While
there are scores of things that could be said on dealing
with wedding day blues for singles, the most important thing
that you can do is keep a smile on your face! When you
smile you cause your mood to lift and your spirits to brighten. Plus,
you never know what cute groomsman might be checking you out
on the dance floor!
By: Melissa Williams
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