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How
to Survive When Your Friend's a Bridezilla
And You're Her Indentured Servant
Everyone
has been there, or at least known someone who has been
there. One of your best friends is getting married
and she is not such a giddy bride. In fact, you might
even venture to call her…Bridezilla!
Of course, it is never a good idea to actually say the
word
“Bridezilla” out loud. So even though you are
feeling it, you should never speak it. Don’t worry;
everyone else is feeling it too, so there’s no need
to whisper to them about your frustrations. Just let it
be an unspoken truth everyone in the bridal party is aware
of.
In any case, when you are a part of your friend’s
very special day and the planning that comes before it,
you will have to endure the traditional tasks that come
with your role in the wedding. Most brides ask very little
of their attendants, but every now and then, Bridezilla
may show her ugly head.
She may start demanding everything from matching toe nail
polish to $600 dresses for the bridal party. She may call
you at midnight asking you to check into caterers for her
the next day. She might even tell you that you can’t
bring a date to her wedding since you are not married and
not with what she would consider to be a “serious” boyfriend.
No matter what, you have to keep your cool! The worse thing
you can do is upset a Bridezilla! Although you may have
to bite your tongue again and again, it is really in the
best interest of everyone to help her get through the wedding
and do what you can to help her.
Just keep in mind that most brides-to-be start with the
demands and other typical “Bridezilla” behavior
because of a few things. Some of them are just nervous
about their upcoming wedding and act out with negativity.
Others are just terrified and are acting like control freaks
because they don’t know how to feel in control again.
Remember, the engagement won’t last forever and your
friend will likely be back to normal after her honeymoon.
So, if you can just make it through until then, you will
be doing her a big favor and keeping your friendship strong.
Who knows, when you get married you could be a Bridezilla
too!
By Whitney Acke
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