Plastic Surgery:
The Compulsion to Look Perfect By Lara Stoll
Daddy, do I look ok? Mom, do these pants make me look fat?
The words resound from a ten-year-old’s mouth and are even
more powerful in her mind. Where is she getting this message?
Why aren’t young girls (who later become women) happy when
they look in the mirror? More than that, why do they begin to
despise their bodies?
The drive to look a certain way abounds from our media and what
the world communicates is “pretty”. But instead of
showing women how to look prettier, shouldn’t the world
be increasing the message that, “You’re beautiful
just the way you are?”
I met a woman who told me about when she was sixteen and her mother
showed her a brochure for liposuction. Let me repeat that…at
the age of sixteen.
So during Christmas school break, her mom used her daughter’s
inheritance intended for college to purchase ten thousand dollars
worth of plastic surgery for seven regions of her body ranging
from below her breasts to above her knees.
Did the girl need it? Absolutely not.
Of course, the mother was just thinking it would improve her daughter’s
self image. But where did she learn this behavior of critiquing
her own body? You guessed it. From her own mother!
Statistics show that nearly 11.5 million cosmetic surgical and
nonsurgical procedures were performed in the United States in
2005.* And apparently that isn’t enough because over half
(51%) of patients will have multiple procedures performed by the
same doctor in the same year.**
What is this craze all about? What fuels a woman’s drive
for physical perfection?
When someone says to me, “I want to get a boob job; I want
my nose to look like Ashlee Simpson’s,” I ask them,
“What else besides your nose don’t you like?”
There’s always more.
I believe that as women, we have the responsibility to tell other
women that they don’t need to change a physical characteristic
to compensate for the way they feel about themselves on the inside.
Have you ever noticed a woman who isn’t exactly a cover
model with an A cup bra size walk up to you and say, “I
feel great!” She beams with inner beauty and confidence
which radiates on the outside.
Maybe with every plastic surgery consultation, there should be
a wellness coach saying, “Hey, what are you really trying
to satisfy? What are you truly seeking?” And most likely,
it can’t be fixed with anesthesia and a knife. Plastic surgery
fulfills only a fraction of what women are looking for; the need
to feel beautiful, the need to feel adequate, the need to count.
Feeling better about yourself starts from within. It’s what’s
on the inside that counts. You were uniquely designed to look
a certain way, just as you are. Don’t mess with a good thing.
You are beautiful, inside and out.
*AMERICAN SOCIETY FOR AESTHETIC PLASTIC
**AAFPRS 2005 Statistics on Trends in Facial Plastic Surgery.
