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Dating: Understanding Him
Need Love; Men Need Respect!
you respect your man, but… does he know it?
you rather feel alone and unloved in the world OR would
you rather feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone?
Regardless of what you would answer, a recent survey in
the book, “For
Women Only” by Shaunti Feldhahn, said that 3
out of 4 men would rather feel unloved.
as you want a man in your life to love you unconditionally,
he needs you to demonstrate your respect for him regardless
of whether he’s meeting your expectations at the
“OK”, you may think… “I respect the man in my life.
However, most men surveyed in this book did not feel the
respect. So, how do you respect your man… so that
he actually realizes it!?
According to “For
Women Only”, there are 4 key needs:
Need #1: Respect his judgment.
A man deeply needs the woman in his life to respect his
knowledge, opinions and decisions. Show you respect him by
calling on his knowledge in a given subject.
Need #2: Respect his abilities.
Men often need to figure things out for themselves and
if they can, they feel like they’ve conquered something
and are affirmed as men. So… next time he is trying
to put together the new shelf from IKEA… don’t
try to help him (unless he asks)!
Need #3: Respect in communication.
Try your hardest not to continually remind him of something
he hasn’t done yet—or something he needs to do.
Try to word your sentences in a way that doesn’t express
Need #4: Respect in public.
The male ego is the most fragile thing on the planet.
Try not to criticize him in public, put him down or even
question his judgment in front of others.
Need #5: Respect in our assumptions.
Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t
assume the worst!
So next time you’re wishing he would tell you how
much he loves you—remember that he desires respect
equivalent to your desire!
encourage YOUR man to check out the new book--
Him Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives