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To Browse or Not to Browse…
that is the question…
Should you give online dating a try?
By Melissa Williams

In today’s technologically savvy age it is not surprising that more and more people are turning to the internet to help them find a mate.  If you are one of the many who have looked for love online it is nice to know you are not alone.  If you have been skeptical as to whether or not to give online dating a chance here are some things to keep in mind.

Online dating can provide you with a way to weed out the bad guys sooner- While there are many people on dating sites who pretend to be something they are not, there is something to be said for getting to know a potential date over the phone and through emails before actually getting together.  This allows you time to get to know someone’s personality without allowing physical attraction and the excitement of a new date to cloud your thinking in deciding whether or not this person might be a good fit for you.

Online dating can expand your horizons-  You might be searching for a particular type of guy and be found by someone great who you might have passed by had he not sent you an email.  Not only does online dating open up the possibilities of the types of guys you might meet, you also have a chance to meet guys from other locations if you are up for it!

Online dating can improve your social skills- If you tend to be shy and find approaching a stranger hard to do, online dating can help you feel more confident and give you a chance to build some communication skills from the comfort of your own home computer!  You will get experience talking with various men, and will most likely learn how to politely say no to those who don’t strike your fancy.

While online dating can have some positive effects on your social calendar there are some safety tips that should be kept in mind.

First of all, never meet up with someone at his house or allow him to pick you up at your home.  You should always meet in a public place such as a local coffee-shop and let others know where you are going and when you plan to return. 

Secondly, never give out personal information about where you live, work, or anything else of a personal nature.  If possible, you should always be the first one to call a potential online date and should use a blocked phone number in case this person turns out to be someone you wouldn’t want to hear from again.

Lastly, remember that while online dating can lead to some lasting and meaningful relationships there are people out there who will take advantage of the anonymity that comes with an online profile.  Always make sure you know who you are dealing with.  Do an internet search on your potential date’s name and see if the information he has provided you about himself is correct.  If you live in California look up the guy’s name on the Meagan’s law website which lists registered sex offenders.  Always keep in mind that even if a guy checks out ok, you should still take caution with meeting and giving out personal information.

Good luck on your search!

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